my own paradigm shift.

Excerpt from my current read: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People :

I remember a mini-paradigm shift I experienced one Sunday morning on a subway in New York. People were sitting quietly- some reading newspapers, some lost in thought, some resting with their eyes closed. It was a calm, peaceful scene.

Then suddenly, a man and his children entered the subway car. The children were so loud and rambunctious that instantly the whole climate changed.

The man sat down next to me and closed his eyes, apparently oblivious to the situation. The children were yelling back and forth, throwing things, even grabbing people’s papers. It was very disturbing. And yet, the man sitting next to me did nothing.

It was difficult not to feel irritated. I could not believe that he could be so insensitive as to let his children run wild like that and do nothing about it, taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see that everyone else on the subway felt irritated, too. So finally, with what I felt was unusual patience and restraint, I turned to him and said, “Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people. I wonder if you couldn’t control them a little more?”

The man lifted his gaze as if to come to consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly, “Oh, you’re right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don’t know what to think, and I guess they don’t know how to handle it either.”

Can you imagine what I felt at that moment? My paradigm shifted. Suddenly, I saw things differently, and because I saw differently, I thought differently, I felt differently, I behaved differently. My irritation vanished. I didn’t have to worry about controlling my attitude or my behavior; my heart was filled with the man’s pain. Feelings of sympathy and compassion flowed freely. “Your wife just died? Oh, I’m so sorry! Can you tell me about it? What can I do to help?” Everything changed in an instant.

– Stephen R. Covey

Currently in transition mode and I’ve come to realize that I am experiencing a fundamental shift in thinking recently. Stepped into a new role and suddenly, I’m seeing my priorities in a different light. I told my mother about this recently and she told me that she was happy for me because I’m growing and will continue to grow through different progressive stages in life.

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Life is like a ladder.
You start from the ground and when you look up, you see an endless amount of rungs reaching way up to the sky. You start from ground zero and climb up step-by-step. You start to see the bigger & broader picture of everything in your view.

wedding sneak peak.

The day came and went by so fast but I’m officially a Mrs.! It was exactly what we wanted: classic, timeless, elegant and intimate. Planning was stressing and I was pulling my hair out on some nights. All in all, it turned out to be a total success.

– splurging on lighting was a great idea! in the words of my sister-in-law, “purple madness!”
– hired an awesome DJ who played lots of bOOty popping music
– my Vera Wang organza dress was a dream come true!
– thought a second party dress was overdoing it but it was a life saver by the end of the night and especially after dinner
– & yes, I actually did eat my steak. & it was delicious!
– had an awesome bridal party! love you guys.
– had one of my bridesmaids, Judy (hello Judy<3) do my updo & it was GORG. so happy to be her first bride and be a total success!
– we danced to our song, Al Green – Let’s Stay Together
– my dad and I danced to The Temptations – My Girl
– open bar…

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the face | made up by Tara, my Sephora girl (hi Tara!)
foundation: Makeup Forever HD
powder: Makeup Forever HD Microfinish Powder
concealer: Makeup Forever Full Cover Concealer
lashes: Sephora
highlighter: Kat Von D Tattoo Concealer
blush: Chanel Joues Contraste Blush
eyeshadow: Urban Decay Naked2
lips: Naked Lip Junkie Lipgloss in Naked & Smashbox Limitless Lip Stain Balm

Mobile pics will do until I get back the professional ones next month.

bride to be…

bride to be...

3 words to describe the present: Preparation. Anticipation. Transition.

The pages keep turning and the story line is getting more and more interesting. Together, we are both anticipating a new chapter that will open up with lots of celebrating and festivities that are fast approaching.

3 more words: Progress. Happiness. Bliss.

bride to be…

bride to be...

3 words to describe the present: Preparation. Anticipation. Transition.

The pages keep turning and the story line is getting more and more interesting. Together, we are both anticipating a new chapter that will open up with lots of celebrating and festivities that are fast approaching.

3 more words: Progress. Happiness. Bliss.